The Well-Being Mindset
It’s that time of year: resolutions, solicitations to join this or that weight loss program, etc. We all know by now that resolutions don’t work and within a few weeks, many people forget what they even were!
Every year I renew my well-being mindset. I aspire to do better than last year. As I get older, I realize that I am “well” regardless of the physical state of my body, emotions or awareness. I renew my effort to go through the ups and downs of life with no (or minimal) judgment of myself and unconditional acceptance. How I feel about myself is independent of results or outcomes. I can hold my kindness, compassion and gratitude with me no matter what is happening externally.
But having a well-being mindset does not mean that I can sit around and eat bonbons all day. One of my wise teachers used to say, “you’re perfect and you need improvement”. It reminds me that I may make progress towards a goal, but I can’t then sit there and pat myself on the back forever. It’s a balance between seeing our bodies and minds as worth caring for, and encouraging ourselves to still do better.
As we move into 2021, consider paying attention to these:
- If you set a goal, make sure it is YOUR goal, not some goal that someone else thinks you should have. Remind yourself frequently WHY this goal is important to you.
- Get organized around your goal and don’t worry about what you can’t control.
- Ask for help. Tap into other people’s energy, knowledge and expertise.
- Rather than trying to meet your goal through sheer willpower, focus on creating daily habits. Associate your new desired habit with a currently-established habit. This is called ‘stacking’. Remember: the path is made by walking step-by-step.
Good luck and good effort!